” We don’t have problems in the relationship to each other, but in the relationship to ourselves!” – Nicholas Bellafiore | Clinical Therapist

Experience and approach: I have over 13 years of experience in the field of Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling with over 300 couples that I have had the privilege to support, guide and accompany in their growth and bonding up to this point. Each couple that steps into my office is received with a warm and respectful welcome as a client. My sessions are defined by clarity, encouragement and fast resolution. My seintiment towards Couples Therapy is primarly to stop the seemingly endless struggle of being heard, seen and understood. I professionally delegate the responsibilities to each one of you, taking away the feeling that your relationship is in peril. My upmost goal is getting you both where you want to go, counseling you at your crossroads and encouraging you when your hope seems lost. My approach is proactive, humerous and sincere. I care for each one of you. I will call you out on what you need to own. I will confront you with precision and emapthy. Hence guide you compassionately to navigate your relationship challenges with confidence and success. Together you will again come home to yourselves and most importantly to one another.

Benefits: Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling will help you both learn effective communication methods to enhance your relationship. Therapy will guide you and your partner in assessing these patterns and learning the right strategies to strengthen that relationship. I specialize in the dynamics of international, and intercultural couples as well as the Expat and the LGTBQ+ community and I work fast and efficient. In relationships the reasons for arguments can vary greatly, from clothes on the floor to betrayals of trust. If you and your partner often argue couples therapy will benefit your relationship dynamic substantially. Evidence based studies show that couples or marriage therapy and couples counseling improves relationships by 70%. Using specific integrated therapeutic techniques of “Emotional focused therapy”  as well as strategies from the “Gottman insitute” you will quickly learn to actively listen by hearing what your partner really has to say and giving them the space to speak their mind. While in the heat of the moment, it can feel challenging to act objectively, learning to discuss thoughts and feelings healthily from week to week will set the corner stones to more trust, deeper understanding and a healthier relationship. 

A healthy relationship will make you feel safe. In it we learn to let go and grow towards mutual dreams. Happiness in these constellations does not have to be a question of fate, but can be a question of choice. As such, each individual has the power to contribute to a cycle of healing and nurture closeness or a cycle of hurt and possibly establish emotional and physical fatigue as well as a sensation of strong disconnect: We spiral into despair, anxiety, anger, or helplessness. We detach. We cycle out of our love.

The flexibility and compassion to enact upon our partners needs and feelings is largely determined by our past experiences of bonding. We need to feel independent from while knowing that we can depend upon one another. It is in this trust and commitment where we create our true sense of love. Only under such given circumstances can we weather even the strongest storms of life, be they self inflicted, by someone we love or beyond our control. And instead of conflicts wearing us down, these moments reveal themselves as opportunities to reach out, show vulnerability and grow into an even stronger and passionate connection. This shift of experience, mind and heart will counteract on the at times paralyzing momentum of destruction, defeat and hopelessness. A determined approach against the often experienced tendency to numb out physically, melt down emotionally or feel disempowered and sad.

Goals: Deescalating this process and reviving a common ground for an open and physically calm dialogue as well as enabling you to understand and feel your counterpart is a crucial step in rediscovering the bond that keeps you together and establishing a healthy and inspiring alternative to mastering conflict. Empower yourself to take the necessary steps to not only soothe but enrich each other and your science of love. Let me support you by implementing a plan that is custom designed to your needs and challenges to regain control over your relationship and making a change that will be worth every minute for the rest of your life. Together we will enable you both to understand the dance and the cycle which draws you together and pushes you apart. Change your dynamic constructively, take specific action, and learn to foster and celebrate yourselves together and in a new light by promoting an effective and powerful narrative of communication, strengthening your connection, and deepening your bond by rekindling commitment as well as trust. Together you will master any obstacle. Together you will be safe.

Availabilites and Set-Up: My services as a Couples Therapist and Marriage Counselor are avialable anyday via video/ online worldwide as well as in person in either my Prenzlauer Berg or Charlottenburg office in Berlin. I offer high flexibilitiy regarding the scheduling. My sessions are effective and fast and in my experience of the last 10 years you can expect to 3 to 5 consecutive joint sessions as a couple and 2 to 3 additional individual sessions that we coordinate intermittendly between the couple sessions. These can be organized weekly or also every week. From then onwards monthly or every other month usually becomes sufficient. In the couples session we recreate the connection and foundation of respect, understanding und warmth that you seek for. The individual sessions will outline your own dynamics and foster your skills to understand the mechanisms that you can control to redirect your mutual bond towards a healing dynamic.

Payment: Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling is paid privately and unfortunately not reimbursed by the statutory system. For specific rates and scheduling please contact me.

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Nicholas Bellafiore | Clinical Therapist